- Sometimes,
- when
- all
- our
- doubts,
- fears
- and
- insecurities
- wrap
- ourselves
- up,
- we
- always
- come
- up
- with
- the
- idea
- of
- “I
- wish
- I
- was
- somebody
- else.”
- More
- often
- than
- not,
- we
- think
- and
- believe
- that
- someone
- or
- rather,
- most
- people
- are
- better
- than
- us.-
- when
- in
- reality,
- the
- fact
- is,
- most
- people
- are
- more
- scared
- than
- us.
- You
- spot
- a
- totally
- eye-catching
- girl
- sitting
- by
- herself
- at
- a
- party,
- casually
- sipping
- on
- a
- glass
- of
- Asti
- Spumanti.
- You
- think
- to
- yourself,
- “she
- looks
- so
- perfectly
- calm
- and
- confident.”
- But
- if
- you
- could
- read
- thru
- her
- transparent
- mind,
- you
- would
- see
- a
- bunch
- of
- clouds
- of
- thoughts
- and
- you
- might
- just
- be
- amazed
- that
- she’s
- thinking
- “are
- people
- talking
- about
- why
- I
- am
- seated
- here
- alone?
- Why
- don’t
- guys
- find
- me
- attractive?
- I
- don’t
- like
- my
- ankles,
- they
- look
- too
- skinny
- I
- wish
- I
- was
- as
- intelligent
- as
- my
- best
- friend.”
- We
- look
- at
- a
- young
- business
- entrepreneur
- and
- say
- “Wooh
- what
- else
- could
- he
- ask
- for?”
- He
- stares
- at
- himself
- at
- the
- mirror
- and
- murmur
- to
- himself,
- “I
- hate
- my
- big
- eyes
- I
- wonder
- why
- my
- friends
- won’t
- talk
- to
- me
- I
- hope
- mom
- and
- dad
- would
- still
- work
- things
- out.”
- Isn’t
- it
- funny?
- We
- look
- at
- other
- people,
- envy
- them
- for
- looking
- so
- outrageously
- perfect
- and
- wish
- we
- could
- trade
- places
- with
- them,
- while
- they
- look
- at
- us
- and
- thinks
- of
- the
- same
- thing.
- We
- are
- insecure
- of
- other
- people
- who
- themselves
- are
- insecure
- of
- us.
- We
- suffer
- from
- low
- self-esteem,
- lack
- of
- self-confidence
- and
- lose
- hope
- in
- self
- improvement
- because
- we
- are
- enveloped
- in
- quiet
- desperation.
- Sometimes,
- you
- notice
- that
- you
- have
- an
- irritating
- habit
- like
- biting
- off
- your
- finger
- nails,
- having
- a
- foul
- mouth,
- and
- you
- of
- all
- people,
- is
- the
- last
- to
- know.
- I
- have
- a
- friend
- who
- never
- gets
- tired
- of
- talking.
- And
- in
- most
- conversations,
- she
- is
- the
- only
- one
- who
- seems
- to
- be
- interested
- in
- the
- things
- she
- has
- to
- say.
- So
- all
- of
- our
- other
- friends
- tend
- to
- avoid
- the
- circles
- whenever
- she’s
- around,
- and
- she
- doesn’t
- notices
- how
- badly
- she
- became
- socially
- handicapped
- gradually
- affecting
- the
- people
- in
- her
- environment.
- One
- key
- to
- self
- improvement
- is
- to
- LISTEN
- and
- TALK
- to
- a
- trusted
- friend.
- Find
- someone
- who
- you
- find
- comfort
- in
- opening
- up
- with
- even
- the
- most
- gentle
- topics
- you
- want
- to
- discuss.
- Ask
- questions
- like
- “do
- you
- think
- I
- am
- ill-mannered?”,
- “Do
- I
- always
- sound
- so
- argumentative?”,
- “Do
- I
- talk
- too
- loud?”,
- “Does
- my
- breath
- smell?”,
- “Do
- I
- ever
- bore
- you
- when
- were
- together?”.
- In
- this
- way,
- the
- other
- person
- will
- obviously
- know
- that
- you
- are
- interested
- in
- the
- process
- of
- self
- improvement.
- Lend
- her
- your
- ears
- for
- comments
- and
- criticisms
- and
- don’t
- give
- her
- answers
- like
- “Don’t
- exaggerate!
- That’s
- just
- the
- way
- I
- am!”
- Open
- up
- your
- mind
- and
- heart
- as
- well.
- And
- in
- return,
- you
- may
- want
- to
- help
- your
- friend
- with
- constructive
- criticism
- that
- will
- also
- help
- her
- improve
- her
- self.
- I
- realize
- this
- is
- a
- tangent,
- but
- before
- I
- go
- any
- further
- I
- don’t
- want
- to
- forget
- to
- mention
- that
- the
- idea
- for
- this
- article
- was
- actually
- given
- to
- me
- by
- these
- guys.
- Looks
- like
- they
- have
- a striking mole removal clinic in Oakville with heart.
- All
- right,
- I’ll
- get
- back
- to
- it!
- One
- of
- Whitney
- Houston’s
- songs
- says
- “Learning
- to
- love
- yourself
- is
- the
- greatest
- love
- of
- all.”
- True
- enough.
- In
- order
- to
- love
- others,
- you
- must
- love
- yourself
- too.
- Remember,
- you
- cannot
- give
- what
- you
- do
- not
- have.
- Before
- telling
- other
- people
- some
- ways
- on
- how
- to
- improve
- themselves,
- let
- them
- see
- that
- you
- yourself
- is
- a
- representation
- and
- a
- product
- of
- self
- improvement.
- Self
- improvement
- makes
- us
- better
- people,
- we
- then
- inspire
- other
- people,
- and
- then
- the
- rest
- of
- the
- world
- will
- follow.
- Stop
- thinking
- of
- yourselves
- as
- second-rate
- beings.
- Forget
- the
- repetitive
- thought
- of
- “If
- only
- I
- was
- richer
- if
- only
- I
- was
- thinner”
- and
- so
- on.
- Accepting
- your
- true
- self
- is
- the
- first
- step
- to
- self
- improvement.
- We
- need
- to
- stop
- comparing
- ourselves
- to
- others
- only
- to
- find
- out
- at
- the
- end
- that
- we’ve
- got
- 10
- more
- reasons
- to
- envy
- them.
- We
- all
- have
- our
- insecurities.
- Nobody
- is
- perfect.
- We
- always
- wish
- we
- had
- better
- things,
- better
- features,
- better
- body
- parts,
- etc.
- But
- life
- need
- not
- to
- be
- perfect
- for
- people
- to
- be
- happy
- about
- themselves.Self
- improvement
- and
- loving
- yourself
- is
- not
- a
- matter
- of
- shouting
- to
- the
- whole
- world
- that
- you
- are
- perfect
- and
- you
- are
- the
- best.
- It’s
- the
- virtue
- of
- acceptance
- and
- contentment.
- When
- we
- begin
- to
- improve
- ourselves,
- we
- then
- begin
- to
- feel
- contented
- and
- happy.
.
